A Short Conversation: Toxicity, Depression, And Anger Issues

Toxic people feel the need to be heard. Helpful people are there to balance out the toxicity.

Never saw it that way. I guess we all just want to be heard.

I think we all want to feel validated. I think those who scream the loudest aren’t validated by those close to them, so they go somewhere where no one can physically make them shut up. And they think the best way to get a response is to say terrible things.

I’m dealing with anger issues and depression. I admit I do this in real life when I’m frustrated.

Screaming.
The need to outrage.
Despair.

That’s understandable. Most of my views I form are from self-reflection.

I used to have terrible anger issues, and I had to take a long look at myself to figure out why I was responding the way I was.

And I empathize with that feeling of despair. I described my depression as an abyss that took away the light of my life.

A major cause of it was me trying to reject and deny my feelings. I felt guilty for having them, so I pretended I didn’t. It’s important to know that you’re not a bad person for feeling things. We can’t and shouldn’t control our feelings, just how we react to them.

My best advice is to find a healthy and constructive way to express yourself. I personally turned to philosophy and poetry, but there are many healthy ways to express yourself. I believe all art is good, but some people aren’t necessarily drawn to it. Things like sports, studying, music, or even volunteering are very good places to start.

A lot of what you said here definitely rings true for me.

I used to draw, and sort of “gave up” on it. I think I need to draw again, as an outlet to express myself.

Thank you for the advice. I’ll take it to heart.