control, self-care, [W]eird Mood | 28 May 2020



Hey! How was your day?

Hey! So sorry that I haven’t responded. I’ve been in a weird mood. How are you??

No worries! I’m pretty good
And is it something you want to talk about? I’m all ears

Ehhhh I’m helping my interns transition in at my site and a lot of things are out of my control but i have to take the heat for it. If that makes sense?
It sucks

That’s so frustrating. I know the type of person you are. You really care about others and your work, and it must be really hard to take whatever they’re saying when you’re doing all you can. I’m here if you ever need someone to vent to
Thanks, I appreciate it.

It’s just that like my site has put me in charge of them but didn’t set me up very well and now they’re not meeting hour requirements which they’re pissed about and I can’t do anything because clients are cancelling so much since everywhere is online…. but anyone I’d trouble shoot this with at my site is on vacation

It sounds like they’re setting you up for failure. Know that you’re not failing anyone, they’re failing you.
My best advice I can give is to put your mental health first. You may have a lot of responsibilities, but your greatest responsibility is to yourself. You can’t help others if you’re not good yourself.
And if things are out of your control, trying to solve impossible problems will wear you down with no return.
This is something that helped me get through a lot:
Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things that I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.

Thanks for that. That means a lot. I have to remind myself to take a step back when I can’t control things. I think I have some control issues, lol
That’s the prayer they ended the Al-Anon meeting with!
How are you?

What a coincidence, haha. That was the prayer my chem teacher had us say before every class in high school, and it really stuck with me.
And same with the control issues. I tried to trick myself that I didn’t have control issues by letting people do things that I wanted to control, but I realized I was controlling what I controlled, haha
And I’m pretty good! I saw my sisters/bros-in-law today for the first time since I started feeling better, and I could really tell how much better I felt when interacting with them

Aww! That’s fantastic. How did it feel better?

It just felt good to be around them, and not like an obligation since we’re family. I actually felt energized instead of worn out.
And something that I learned to do when I was feeling bad was to fake-smile with my eyes, because I realized that was the best way to hide how I was feeling. But I realized I haven’t been doing that lately

That’s a big deal 🙂 I’m really happy for you. Do you think they noticed?

I think so, even if it was just the little things. I was participating a lot more in the conversion, and it felt like they were enjoying it a lot more
Hey, I’m gonna head to bed. It was really nice taking to you again
And I just want you to know I’m always here if you need someone to vent to/talk things over. You’ve helped me a lot, so it’s the least I can do!

I’m glad that it was noticeably different for the better!
Thanks so much, Noah! The same always applies to you. I promise to respond to your other texts tomorrow. Sorry again for the delay. I hope you sleep well 🙂

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